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~ Pastor's Encouraging Words ~
  God can heal wounded relationships - pt.1


      I have been reading how God can heal wounded relationships. It comes out of Jeremiah 30:17 God said, "I will restore". This is for anyone of you who have been hurt through a relationship. It doesn't matter what type of relationship God said He can restore it. This is what I have found: This is what you have to do to move past the offense:

   "There are no painless, foolproof guarantees; healing a relationship involves shared effort and risk. I have to trust that ultimately you'll forgive me and put the offense behind you, and you have to believe that I'm sincere about changing. Healing wounded relationships is a two-person job. Your job is to work at trusting me again, and mine is to provide you with evidence that I'm trustworthy. When we do that we invite one another's cooperation, encourage each other and shorten the distance that separates us. Making a relationship work means deciding you have real and positive options, and both partners committing to them.

      If your betrayal caused the wounds, you can make tour own job easier by becoming more accountable. By voluntarily keeping your partner in the loop about your schedule, without their having to quiz you, you graduate from being the bad guy to becoming a full-fledged team member, pursuing a mutual game plan so you can both win. By agreeing to self-police you also remove the resentment one partner feels when the other one monitors them. In other words, it relieves them of the dirty work of micromanaging you, and spares you humiliation of feeling like you're always under the microscope.

    On the other hand, if you are the wounded partner you can make your mates job easier by letting them know you value the relationship enough to make it work by keeping up your end. Tell them you appreciate their efforts. When healing a relationship becomes the main focus of both partners, and you include God, who said, "I will restore," it will happen!

    In my own life I have had a few wounded relationships. Some of them I still carry scares, but I have learned through my God who heals relationship and the scares that go along with them, that He will deal with those in time I just have to trust in Him to do just that. I hope that this may help so of you who have experienced a wounded relationship. Over the next few weeks as I continue to read about how God works in relationships I will continue to send you what I have read.

                         "IN IT TOGETHER"               Pastor Steve